Thank you for inquiring about the possibility of being married at St. Thomas More. We want to support and assist you in the best way possible as you embark on this very important commitment in your lives. These Q&As are intended to answer a few of the questions which are most likely on your mind at this time. It may also help you to raise some questions which haven’t yet occurred to you but which will be important for you to consider as you make plans for your wedding.
A: The priests or deacons assigned to St. Thomas More Parish normally officiate at weddings. In addition, permission may be given for a priest or deacon who is a relative or friend to officiate. And, if you belong to another parish in the Diocese, your pastor will be the appropriate person to approach in this matter.
A: Yes, if he or she is marrying a Catholic.
A: The Catholic Church regards marriage as a permanent commitment. If someone has been through a divorce, please discuss the matter with a priest or deacon who will be happy to help you resolve the situation. This should be done at the very beginning of the marriage preparation process.
A: Yes. Since marriage between the baptized in the Catholic Church is a Sacrament and a commitment for life, one of the ways we value and honor it is by taking time to help couples prepare. This preparation, scheduled and conducted by the officiating clergyman, will include:
A: Weddings are scheduled according to the liturgical schedule for Saturday and Sunday Masses. Since weekend Masses are a priority other liturgical functions are scheduled so as not to interfere with the parish Mass schedule.
A: No. Weddings may be celebrated either during the celebration of Mass or during a Liturgy of the Word. Normally, weddings are celebrated during Mass only when both parties are of the Catholic faith.
A: Yes. The marriage ritual is first and foremost prayer which is celebrated within a sacred building in the midst of a community of faith. The form of the celebration is set forth in the Church’s official ritual books, which offer a number of options for Scripture readings, prayers, blessings, and vows. The priest or deacon who will preside at your wedding can assist you in choosing wedding texts and Scripture readings that best reflect your personal relationship with God. The Director of Music is also available to assist in choosing appropriate music and the Wedding Coordinator can assist with explaining other policies and answering further questions. Please keep in mind the following:
A: Yes. Use of the Parish Activity Center may be arranged through the Parish Office. The area accommodates up to 400 guests for a catered reception. Couples are encouraged to make these arrangements well in advance.
A: Yes. The fees assigned to your wedding help defray the costs of the services of the Wedding Coordinator, the business office and the maintenance staff, as well as the cost of utilities, such as heat and electricity.
Wedding Stipend $300
Wedding Coordinator $100
In addition there is a charge for musicians and for a cantor.
In cases of need some fees may be waived.